Madam felicia I have a problem, I’m in love with a married man and his in love with me too, asking me to marry him. Though, I have single men that also wants to marry me but I dont feel anything for them. Please what do I do? I’m confused
Thank you for reaching me.
This is quite a delicate issue and as such, honesty and sincerity should not be left out.
Your key points are
- The man is married
- You are in love with him
- He is in love with you and asked you to marry him
- You have single men asking to marry you as well but you feel nothing for them.
From the points above;
The man has a family already. Is he divorced legally?
You only know how you feel about him because you can only explain for yourself.
Simply because he said he is in love with, does not truly mean he his, and if he is truly is, does that make it right?
You should ask yourself questions like:
Are you the only one asides his wife he is saying that to? What is the assurance that even if it works out, he would not do same to you with another girl just the way he is doing to his wife with you? Does he just want a new short term spark that could fade off anytime soon with you and get it started with another girl after you? Do you want to be the actual reason his family ( wife and children) gets into emotional and relationship trauma? Can you stand to be the reason and bear the consequences that comes along with a broken family? These and many more questions should be honestly soul searched, asked and answered by you and you alone.
Choosing someone to love can be quite tasking but you really need to put a lot of things into consideration. I know we all have our standards, we know what we want and do not want in our partners and do not want to fall short of that, but then, sometimes, our standards might not even be what matters most to be able to sustain a relationship into marriage, and marriage into a happy and long lasting one.
Are your bars too raised for the single guys? Why not give room for friendship with them, see them for who they really are, do not shut the door on them and see how it goes?
The truth is, getting involved with a married man is admitting that it is alright for a man to cheat on his wife. As such, would you complain if roles were switched for you to be in his wife’s shoes?
I hope these points helps.
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