Hello Ma, my name is Amos. I am a teacher and i am dating a lady in nursing training now for 3 years. We had a break up first but we came back. Recently she called and was saying she feels like she is wasting time with me and was thinking it should be better she is dating someone who is working by now. And days later she doesn’t give a call any longer and when she did we only exchange greetings and that’s all. My parents love her so much and can’t wait to see me married to her and I also love her deep down in my heart and she is away. What should I do?
Thank you for writing me, Amos.
To start with, I have no idea how old you both are, as it was not indicated and that could have influenced some actions and decisions.
People break up and makeup while dating…sometimes for better and sometimes for worse. It depends on lessons learnt, corrections took and amendments made during and after the break.
You wrote that you are a teacher, yet you still wrote that she ‘was thinking it should be better she is dating someone who is working by now’
Were you trying to imply that she is complaining about your financial status as not sufficient to cater for the family?
Most times, when a lady says she feels like she’s wasting her time with you, it probably means she does not mind being with you but….you are not making enough/an attempt to make her stay, or, there are trusts issues, or, she does not see the relationship going beyond a particular point, or, she wants you to give her reasons not to leave, or, you are taking too long to not only pop the question but to as well marry her….or, someone somewhere is probably appearing as a ‘no-time-waster’
Saying you love someone is not just enough, it’s actually more than words. Trust me, actions speak louder.
I would suggest you have a serious heart to heart talk with her, let her know how you feel about her, let her pour out her mind as regards the issues on the ground as well so that you both can be on the same page.
Truth is, some relationship issues can be resolved, some can be met halfway, and sadly, some can’t.
Hope this helps….wish you luck.