I need counseling in my marriage, i have been married for 3 years with 2 kids. It seem my marriage has hit rock bottom. I have a husband that doesn’t really support me. He drinking problem, he doesn’t always support me financially, we don’t communicate properly, money issues , intimacy issues, he doesn’t stay at home, he sleeps out. Really i am tired of his behavior, He is not a responsible man, and i need him to be a responsible husband and father to me and the kids. How can you help me?
Let me first say to you that the first thing you need to do for yourself is learning how to survive in an unbalanced relationship like yours which is most common in the society today.
You need to take your time and your strength in untiring patience and learn to smile in your situation. Its key to first winning an emotional issues like this.
To your husband, he really needs your help but you must know that a man’s ego will never allow him to ask for help. So your responsibility as a wife is to help him by loving him more, like the first time you met him. This is the moment he needs you most.
There are always reasons why people act they way they act and as a wife it’s your duty to find out what went wrong. Let me even ask you- was he like that when you guys were dating? did you ever see all this signs of irresponsibility in him back then when you started dating him? For you to help yourself out , you need to help him out by talking sweetly to him, being supportive, kind and more loving. And you must never show the sign of giving up on him, continue to remain positive about him and boost his self confidence by telling him you still believe in him, you still trust him and you still care about him.
So my dear, issues like this demands more attention from you in order to manage the affairs of your home properly. With time you will grow knowing more on how to handle your family affairs. please get back to me on the outcome of your approach. Thanks.