- Asking Her Out When There’s No Mutual Interest.
The first thing you should avoid is asking her out when there’s no mutual interest. If you ask a girl out that hasn’t shown a trace of interest in you, you’re setting yourself up for utter disaster. The reason for this is because dating is only successful when both participants are interested in each other. If you pine over a girl and she hardly notices you, then get to know her better to see if there’s any true dating potential.
- Don’t Make It Seem Like She’d Be Doing You A Favor By Dating You.
If you make it seem like she’d be doing you a favor by dating you, you might as well tell her that she’s too good for you, and that you’re not worth dating. Taking this approach will show her you lack confidence and self worth which are two very unattractive traits. Another important reason to avoid this approach is because it makes it seem like you’re trying to get something from her. This is something that will make her very hesitant to date you because dating should be beneficial for both you and her. If you make it seem like you have nothing to offer and will only be taking away from her, there’s no reason why she’ll agree to date you.
- Don’t Do It In Front Of Her Friends Or Your Friends.
One surefire way to make her feel uncomfortable when asking her out is doing it in front of her friends or your friends. Dating is a more personal matter that should be initiated in private as much as possible. This will make her feel more comfortable and less pressured when asked out. Another reason why asking her out in front of her friends or your friends is a bad idea is because you should be spending time with her alone before you even think about asking her out. If you don’t ever spend any time alone with her and haven’t developed some sort of one on one friendship with her, asking her out would seem sudden and unnatural, which could scare her away.
- Don’t Use Text Messages, Emails, Or Social Networking Sites
The If you want to display a complete lack of self confidence to a girl, ask her out using a text message, email, or social networking site. Because technology is so pervasive in our lives today, it may seem natural to ask a girl out by using a text message, email, or social networking site.
- Don’t Make A Big Deal Out Of It, Especially If Rejected.
Another thing to avoid when asking her out is making a big deal out of it. If you do this, she will likely feel pressured, uncomfortable, and even creeped out, which will only increase your chances of rejection. If you are comfortable with a girl on a potentially romantic level, asking her out on a date should be a very natural progression for both you and her. You shouldn’t have to over think it or build up to it too much.